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You Finally Made It

March 3, 2018


You Are About To Go

Everyone in the neighborhood is ecstatic when they heard the news that you are leaving. After some glitches and hitches in your pursuit of a better life somewhere, your time has come and you finally made it! All in the family are saying prayers for your safety along the way when you travel the next more than a thousand-mile stretch to reach the place where you will begin your life’s next chapter. It’s indeed, a long and tiring journey to your new home but it does not concern you at all because what overwhelms you, is the thought that you are leaving the place where you had so much of anything but happiness…. the truth really hurts!

You still remember those days of trying and seeking to meet your Mr. Right through dating sites. Countless shady characters and personas were lined up for you to choose. All sorts of nationalities and skin colors were there for your picking but you preferred a wheel-chaired bound, white skinned, rolly-polly old guy thinking he could be harmless and more humane than the other young colored skinned guys. What struck your mind was most of them looked too old to be your husband as they already looked like your grandfather who passed away so long a time. At least, you could make a broad smile now because after all the nitty- gritty of finding out your life-partner, you finally made it! He is at the other side of the globe waiting for you with open arms. It already sunk in your mind that you would be doing extra chores for him other than your wife’s role of tending a disabled old guy whose days on earth are already counted. Nevertheless, you are prepared for the worst case scenario, if ever.



Seeing Things In Retrospect

Those were the days when you lost your self-respect. There were times you already had some inklings of hopelessness. You were born out of love and your parents seemed to be the happiest persons in the world the first time they saw you. They had the fondest dreams of giving the best this world could offer to their last-born child who was you. At first, everything was quite alright because your laughter brought happiness to everyone who heard it. It was like a making of a telenovela. The house where you were living was aptly called home as it filled with emotions and harmonies, and you were the apple of the eyes of everybody. At a glance, one could have assumed how fortunate was you compared to the others. What a complete irony!

But love and affection could not guarantee a comfortable living. Your father had an on and off job, but more often, he was out of job. Though your mother shared the responsibility of eking out a living by doing some laundry, her income was so insufficient to provide the family’s three square meals daily. Later, it became a hand-to-mouth existence, having something to eat the next day would be remote possibility. As you grew up, you would want to go to school but tightening your belt was the priority, to enroll in school and study with a crumbling stomach was not a good idea because nothing would get into your mind which prevailed upon by your hunger.

You were lucky that there were public schools that offered free elementary and secondary education, but still, you ought to have some money for food and transport. But you really wanted to study so you did some odd jobs on the side and studied at nighttime, you got enrolled and were able to write, read and understand English language, aside from Filipino, your native tongue. And because of the same financial issues, you were not able to finish your secondary education, you had to stop in the mid-stream which was amply enough for you to break the language barrier and be able to communicate with some foreign nationals by speaking broken English.



Life Is Really A Mystery

In your childhood, you saw the big inequality between the poor and the rich people. While you were sporting a worn-out tattered clothing which could be your best, your rich neighbors wore nicely-ironed dress of which by your standard would already worth a fortune. You could not even eat at the famous fast food chain like everyone else did but just watched your well-off peers eating and enjoying their meals while you were salivating. “If God was really fair, why He let me suffer this fate”, you asked yourself. You did not get the answer but somehow, something struck your mind.

It was like you woke up from a deep and long slumber. Then you finally realized you should have lifted up your butts early on and played catch up. No one can turn back the hands of time. If you want something, go for it and work for it. Nothing would happen in cooing. It’s a waste of time. Now is the time for you to take action. “God is always watching above us. He will never let us fail”. The statement your mother used to tell you since you were a kid. It amazed you to know that your parents were able to maintain an enviable life’s virtue even in most difficult times. This was just like a shot of the much-needed adrenalin in your body. You felt more motivated in your quest of changing your life for the better.



Now, you see yourself in the company of like-minded women who opted to take chances of marrying foreigners to change the course of their lives. It was not an easy-peasy task but you have already witnessed some success stories of many deprived women who are now living happily across the globe with their foreign husbands. It seemed dating sites have their own days of glory, too!

You still remember the first time you were taken to an internet shop and taught how to log in and did some scribbling on the computer’s keyboard. You were fascinated by the sounds you made as you touched the keys. It even reminded you the noisy place in your neighborhood where people tried their luck to make some cash by playing majhong game only to head home empty-handed. In this country, poor people could not earn enough through legal means while people holding respectable positions in the government were raking tons of money through unalawful ways and living in luxury with their families. This is the life’s riddle which your mind could not really comprehend ever since.

What You See Is What You Get

Your friend guided you to type some words again after which you became familiar and landed to a dating site littered with photographs of ladies of different ages but with the same objectives of seeking foreign life-partners to get out of poverty where they stuck since their childhood. You were asked to submit some personal information as well as one of your best picture. And the rest was history. You finally got hold of the guy whom you just saw on his picture. From the Caucasian looks of him, he seemed to be lonely, sitting in a wheelchair and living alone in a big house adorned with things you only saw on movies. This guy must be rich!, the first thing that struck your mind.

After some several online meet ups, a “relationship” bloomed and flourished in a short span of time. There was no affection involved whatsoever but just a mere consensual meeting of minds. He wanted to have someone on his side who would take care of his personal needs while you would want to have life security and all. It’s a matter of using each other for each own personal gains.



You visualize yourself now clearly unlike before where you pictured yourself so vaguely. You learned to smile sweetly and broadly once again and your mind started to saunter across the blue horizon. Hope filled your heart that finally, you could make a change, maybe a big change in your life and provide your family the things that will make their lives worth living. There is always an answer to every prayer. The Almighty always listens and has peculiar ways of answering everyone’s prayer, yet, He is the only one who knows what would be His answer. God answered your prayer and He even made your faith stronger so you can regain your self-respect. As you gazed around, you realized, the world is still beautiful and abounded with His graces.


In our darkest hours of uncertainties, we tend to lose our hope and resort to some self-pity in the thought that the Almighty has already forsaken us and subjected us to a never ending life’s trials. Everything will come to an end because nothing is permanent in this world. All of us will leave in our own time, but one thing is for sure, that after sunset, the sun will shine again.

Life has its own highs and lows. In times of tribulations, Poverty is not a hindrance to succeed in life. In fact, poor people have some head-starts over the others because they are more resilient and would not just easily give up. They maybe downed once or twice but would stand up again and fight. They are borne winners and get tougher when the going gets tough. Sometimes, they got the sure-fire formula to realize their dreams. A proof is a number of successful people in our pantheon of greats also came from poverty but they strove hard to make names for themselves and excelled in their fields of interest.


If you are born poor, rejoice and feel proud of yourself because you are destined to a greater height of achievement in which a very few people had been able to conquer and replicate.


Credits go to WA for pictures and images used in this blog.


February 16, 2018

To Date Or Not To Date



Oh My! It’s Love’ Month Again…

This article is already late because February 14 is already in the book. I could have written this earlier had I not been busy with my usual chores which used to occupy most of my time, letting me pass the chance to open up my laptop and scribbled some words with some connections with the Philippine celebration of Day of Hearts, a.k.a. Valentine’s Day. First thing that comes to mind,  to date or not to date their beloved damsels. For romantic Filipinos, this is a special day in which to show to their loved ones how much they love and care for them.

I know it is also being observed by some Filipinos who got married and settled in other countries with their foreign espouses, but the way the Philippines celebrates Valentine’s Day is something extra-ordinary, yet unique. It is very hard to imitate its glamour and pageantry, something to be proud of by Filipinos themselves who still firmly believe in the magic of Cupid’s arrow. To those Filipinos who are love-struck, they are set to go on dating with their partners which will seal and complement the occasion. Some would do it on the eve of the celebration while some would do it on the day of the celebration itself, but some Don Quixotes are still contemplating whether to date or not to date their Donna Dulcineas!



Romanticizing The Event 

Love fills the air as people and lovers alike ecstatically wait and counting days, hours and minutes for the special day. Every business establishment in the hospitality industry is offering different kinds of promos to lure customers and to spike their sales revenues. But the flower shop business is the one making a killing several days before the big day comes as almost all Romeos hurriedly buy bouquets of flowers to manifest their love for their Juliets. But not all Romeos are created equals, some have been able to save some bucks for the celebration while some Romeos who are financially challenged are brooding in one corner, fidgeting their fingers because they are not sure if they  can date their beloved Juliets, who like the others are expecting something nice for them in the forthcoming day of hearts’ celebrations.

Valentine’s Day is a festive celebration in the Philippines, Filipinas turned gaga and love-struck. It even boosts trade and commerce in the country as the Filipinos are preparing for the occasion. Hotels are fully booked already several days in advance. Malls are festooned with decors of red hearts of all sizes and cupid images, literally, the town is painted red and while shoppers are in spending spree for gifts to be given to their loved ones.


An Occasion That Knows No Bound 

Truly, Valentine’s Day is an event for all types of people regardless of sex, relationships, nationalities, skin colors and even religious affiliations. Since all of us were conceived and born out of love, Everyone feels the same heartbeat and passion. We always want to show our affections towards our loved ones, ( although, there are some of us who were born undemonstrative and cold ), but this is not an issue because they also want to feel they are being loved and important to the people they loved.

Even the people that belong to the third sex cannot be outsmarted when it comes to Valentine’s Day celebration. To those well-off individuals, they would want to shower their partners the best gifts available, making their celebrations memorable one. And for some who are out of budget, the celebrations must go on even in the simplest form out of extravagance.

In this world of complexities, we are now abounded with things that become a part of our daily living. We are in the radar of technology evolution, or the age of computer in other lingo. We learned to accept things the way we see them which exhibits our open-mindedness and liberalism.

Before, there were only marriages of men and women as dictated by our Christian teachings, least we seldom see people belonging to third sex openly admitting and showing they are in some serious relationships with their same sex partners. This practice was regarded as taboo in the olden days of our society and people who were involved in this kind of relationship were considered on the road to perdition.



The Dawn Of LGBT Era

As the sun sets to give way to another day, the dawn offers many changes and surprises to all of us. God sleeps with the geniuses and thinks within poets…after which, God has handed down a poetic justice!

It took these people of the third sex almost half a century to finally come out of their closets and to show to world they are living and existing in the same world we live in. Slowly, they were accepted, embedded in the society and appreciated their valuable contributions to different industries they have made names for themselves.

Now, we often see same sex marriage that happened in many parts of the globe because some countries have become liberal towards LGBT communities and has since passed laws allowing same sex marriage in their countries. The Philippines is following the trend, being the only Catholic nation in Asia has already softened its stance vis-a-vis same sex marriage and the present administration is on the verge of allowing it before it finishes its term. If this happens, this will be another moral victory for the third sex communities in the Philippines and in this regard, we can also expect a lovelier and more colorful celebrations of Valentine’s Day in the Philippines in not so distant years.




The world is getting old, so do us. it is completely different from the world we knew before wherein pollution, green house effects, global warming were the words so alien to us but became so familiar with as time went on. Armed conflicts are found in all four corners of the world brought about by contradicting religious beliefs and political upheavals. Hate and anger overcome the people’s sense of righteousness.

Lives and limbs are no sacred anymore but to kill and to maim people is the name of the game in order to move the selfish ambitions of a few to a greater extent. What a dangerous and cruel world we are living now. And in the last three hundred sixty-four days of the year, we lose the heart to understand the feelings of others. We failed to share our love with someone we love, we can’t give something without expecting a return, we know how to receive but don’t know how to reciprocate. Not only we lose the heart to love but some of our sensibilities, too.

It’s good there is Valentine’s Day. The day which we can reclaim the hearts and the sensibilities we lose. At least, once a year, there is a lull in some foolishness of the things we do. Time and again, we reverted to our old form of being affectionate to others and in a day, we learn how to love and be loved again. At least, once a year, we let love rule the world once again. Belated Happy Valentine’s Day to all of you!!!



Credits go to WA for pictures and images used in this article.


January 6, 2018


Invitation card in 1930 1



To my dear blog site visitors, I welcome you to my first ever blog  site, which is the product of my sweat and labor. A realization of my dream to leave a mark and be known in the online dating industry. At this age of technical revolution, the world has witnessed how technology changed the way we live. Changes that keep affecting our lives, changes that happened overnight. And as long as technology continues to evolve, we can expect a different world we live in the soonest time possible. This is one of the very reasons why this blog site was created. I believe people have the right to be informed, so this is my way of disseminating information through this blog site to the people all over the universe. I truly appreciate your visits to my blog site and my fervent wish that this will not be your last.




In the past up to the present, we were accustomed to seeing our women, the Filipinas or simply called Pinays, marrying foreign bachelors like Americans, British, Europeans, Japanese and other Asian bachelors. The promise of good life is the foremost reason why they did that. Once the marriage become successful, other Filipina relatives will follow suit. A typical scenario is when a Filipina marries an American, this will earn her a chance to become an American citizen and live in America. The same thing happens if Filipinas married other nationalities. In the olden days, meeting and knowing future Filipina foreign partners where done through informal introductions (mostly by relatives and friends), penpals (exchanging letters) and by accidental meet-ups. This became the start of a very good beginning which may lead to something good for the Filipinas.


The meetings will be followed by acquaintances that normally would take time, sometimes several months up to several years depending on how long they developed their relationships that would eventually lead to marriages. There were times, the would-be groom would come to the Philippines purposely to marry his Filipina fiancee, or the other way around for the fiancee, and since means of communications were scarce during those times, not all marriages became successful, especially for couples who were only penpals before they tied the knots.


We had seen in the past how Filipinas were swayed by fleeting promises of foreign nationals through some unscrupulous intermediaries. Some were invited to visit and to meet their prospective life partners to the extent of shouldering travel expenses themselves only to be exploited and physically abused abroad.



The absence of credible dating sites during those times posed perils and to Filipinas who dreamed of marrying gentlemen from across the globe. Some fell preys to lurking predatory individuals who just waited for those opportune times to attack their would-be victims.


gorgeous wedding couple in car

This perennial problem faced by Filipinas could have been avoided if thereere dating sites available those days that would enable them to fully understand the cultures and to know the true characters and identities of their would-be life partners. In so doing, Filipinas can be protected and can be assured of successful marriages with foreigners, notwithstanding a foreseeable life security is ahead of them.



This blog site is dedicated to alleviate the plights of Filipinas who are dreaming of marrying foreign nationals for a better future and life security. This blog site aims to be one if not the best site that will scrutinize, study, check and separate genuine datings sites from fake dating sites for Filipinas.




We will also publish reviews of genuine dating sites that we will undertake on regular basis with regards to the types and quality of the services they offer, and to promote and recommend those genuine dating sites that  would pass our criterias. In so doing, Filipinas will be safe and protected from fake dating sites and their cahoots. Rest assured, we will strive hard to fulfill our commitments to our fellow Filipinas.

Any queries and help you may want to ask, kindly leave them below,  and I will be more than glad to assist you.


Credits go to,, freeimages, iStocks, for photos and images used in this blog.

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